Raising boys? Read this!

Hello? Anybody out there? I'm really not sure if this is reaching many people, but I'm going send a shout out to the great void anyway.

So, as many of you know, I have four boys. We have lots of boy fun. I love my boys. They are so straightforward. They wrestle and fight a lot, but they get over things quickly. There is very little drama (okay, maybe not very little, but a small amount comparatively). There is one downside, though. There is a trend sweeping the ranks of boyhood and manhood worldwide. Boys are becoming lazier. The statistics are quite telling.  Boys Adrift, by Leonard Sax, explains five factors that are effecting boys' motivation.

In a nutshell, we currently face a lot of environmental factors that didn't exist 30 years ago. Things like plastic bottles, phalates, pesticides, and video gaming are relatively new factors.  Manufactured products contain things like BPA and artificial hormones that interfere with the motivation sensors in the male brain, as does video gaming. After reading this book, I felt a little bit overwhelmed with what I could do to change any of this, even with the suggestions listed in the book. (I think limiting my kids to 40 minutes of video gaming a day is the hardest part!) As a result, I began exploring ways to purify my home and the food that my children eat. In short, I looked for effective ways to "go green."

After my initial reaction of trying to ban all plastic from my home and buying organic everything, I realized I needed to find a balance because I couldn't afford all the changes that I wanted to make. Luckily, around the time I made these changes, I also discovered Doterra Essential oils.  I don't want this to sound like a commercial, but I have found so many alternative solutions for cleaning that I had to share.

I am a clean freak. After years of using harsh chemicals and products like disinfecting wipes, my hands were thrashed and I knew that by inhaling the vapors and coming into contact with ingredients I couldn't even pronounce I was potentially putting myself and my children at risk. (Read more about harsh chemicals and cleaning agents here.) I remembered reading an article in a Family Circle magazine that talked about alternative cleaning products, namely Melaleuca (tea tree oil), and I just so happened to have recently purchased Melaleuca. I read about the antigermicidal, antifungal, antibacterial and immune-boosting properties of Melaleuca and decided to try it on my shower. I mixed several drops of Melaleuca in a water bottle, sprayed it on, and watched it get rid of the mildew and mold on my shower floor (I had just cleaned it with Tilex with no results.) Now, I spray my shower with it daily and the mildew has not returned.

I also use lemon oil because it also has cleansing qualities and I love the smell. I use it instead of Lysol wipes on my countertops and floors. It has also replaced Windex for me. It is fab-u-lous. The most exciting about lemon oil is it breaks down impurities so I use it to clean my fruits and vegetables when I can't afford to buy organic. I also put a little in my water each day to cleanse my system and it's great for tummy aches!

My new favorite cleaner is a special Doterra blend called Purify. It contains a blend of different oils and can get rid of nasty odors. Case in point: many of my friends get to hear me complain about the smell that three boys leave in a restroom. The caulking around my toilet is disintegrating because of the urine (sorry to gross you out, but if you have boys you know what I'm talking about). I can't get rid of the smell and I have used many different cleaners. This week I tried Purify and am happy to report the smell is gone and doesn't come back as quickly as when I use harsh cleaners. I will never be without it!  The best part about all of this is that these oils contain no phalates, pesticides or synthetic fillers unlike other brands you can find at the store.

I feel so empowered in my home. That is a great feeling. There are also oils to help with other issues that boys face, such as ADD and ADHD - which can be worsenend, according to the author of the book, by prescriptions such as Ritalin.  I want to empower other mothers to take control of their homes, and this is why I wanted to share. This is just the beginning of my love affair with Essential Oils.

Now, I'm going to turn off the Wii...their 40 minutes are up!

P.S. I just wanted to add this because not all oils are safe to ingest!  Doterra Essential oils are pure and safe to ingest because they contain no synthetic fillers, pesticides, weeds, etc. If you'd like more info about Doterra oils click here.

Cure for the blues

It feels like I've been walking around with a storm cloud over my head for the past two years.  I think that's just my perception. Ever notice when you get the blues it colors your memories? I've been a pretty good journaler in the past but the last year has been especially challenging because life has just gotten busier. So, tonight, as I waded in the doldrums of life, I decided to take a peek into my life as it was a year ago to see if it was really as bad as I was imagining. What I found really surprised me.  During that time I made it a goal to find the positive in life. This journal entry really gave me the giggles and I'm so glad I recorded it to remind myself that there is always a bright side to every situation.

Prayers.  We say a lot of them.  Jacob especially loves to pray at mealtime.  He often gets upset if he is not chosen to say the prayer and will offer his own after whoever gives the prayer is done – if he’s in one of those moods.  It’s a good thing that my children love to pray.  I love what they say in their prayers, especially Jacob.  Usually he has his eyes fluttering open and closed to make sure everyone is closing their eyes.

“He’nly Father, please bless us to say prayers.”

“Bless us to be good.”

“Bless Mommy to not be naughty.”

These are just a few of his regular prayers. 

                Garrett is my other pray-er.  He is the first to suggest a prayer when we have lost something or there is contention in the house.  He often teaches me by example and he knows that Heavenly Father will answer him.  Except for today.  Today, Garrett took a flying leap off the couch.  He landed with a thud and when he sat up he said, “Mom, I just prayed for a long time in the bathroom that I could fly, so how come I can’t?” 

                Well, I admire his diligence and his trust in Heavenly Father, but how do I answer this one.  I did my best to explain that God always answers, but sometimes it’s not the answer we want.  I told him Heavenly Father wants him to be safe, so he probably wouldn’t help him fly – not to mention that nobody in the history of mankind has ever flown on his own.  He accepted this and then went to pray to be invisible. 

   So, my cure for the blues turned out to be my own experience. I am so glad I decided to write in my journal last year because it has given me something to smile about this year. I know that when I wrote this experience I was struggling with my two-year-old, but I found the simple joys and wrote about them. Maybe this can give you some inspiration to write your positive experiences. You might need them someday!

Gardening with Kiddos

So now your garden is up and growing right? I've been having fun growing things and learning how to garden with a toddler. The American Community Gardening Association is a great resource for ideas. I've included some of their thoughts as well as my own...

• Let kids enjoy the process of gardening without worrying so much about the end result. I know this can be rough because you put a lot of work into it. We've had quite a few squished strawberries because 2 yr old feet have strayed off the garden path but my little one has loved picking and eating strawberries in her own way and I've loved watching. It may be that the only thing you grow is a gardener :).
• Go through seed catalog, pick seeds based on plants that look appealing to your kids. Maybe try a new, exotic plant each year (we tried peanuts a few years back and it was really fun and surprising to see how peanuts grow).
• My daughter loves planting seeds. She doesn't really think much about them after they're in the ground (and sometimes I go back and pick them up later) but she loves poking holes in the soil, dropping in the seeds and burying them.
• Let your kids help you problem solve, is there a bug eating your crops? Send your child out to investigate and see what he/she can find out. Here are a few questions to get them started: What kind of holes does it make in the leaves? Does it leave a trail of any sort? Do you notice any webs nearby? Can you think of a way to try to catch the culprit? Is the damage enough that we need to worry about it? Let your kids feel invested in the problem solving process (be it disease, malnutrition or bugs) and the solution.
• Try relinquishing a section of the garden where your kids can plant/tend/harvest however they'd like. If they're old enough, encourage them to have a garden journal to jot down observations or draw pictures of their garden. They can also measure plants, tracking their growth and counting their yield through the season,
  
• One of my friends sends her kids out to pick bugs off the plants.
• Research and grow some edible flowers
• Let your child select some colorful flowers to plant in with your vegetables. They'll help attract bees.
• Plant a Sweet 100 Cherry Tomato plant and let your kids pick and eat to their hearts content.
• Target has some decent children's gardening tools in the dollar spot. It's always easier to work with tools that are the right size.
• Make a teepee out of a pole bean or a vining plant. Use bamboo stakes to form the teepee and then plant around the outside and help the vining plant to trellis up. Use this as a novel focal point in your garden or a fun hideout.
• If you're using containers, let your kids paint/decorate the pots.
• Make vegetable markers. There are SO many ideas out there for creative plant markers or let your kids come up with something themselves.
• Plant seeds in a pattern, a shape, your child's initial, etc.
• Get a seedling tray and a seed packet and let your little one see how many seedlings he/she can get to grow. I've heard that people actually get paid based on their germination rate (the percentage of seedlings that sprout from the seeds planted).
• I find that my daughter can manage better if we can keep our garden maintenance fairly short in duration. Our max is about 10 minutes. Sometimes that means we're out there 2 or 3 times a day but it's enjoyable for both of us. The weeds will still be there for me to pick tomorrow :).
• We're gonna get dirty. And it's good.
• Make leaf prints, seed collages, dry flowers, garden portraits, bug profiles.
• Facilitate, try not to micromanage too much. This is hard for me but I'm working on it.
• And if you really want to go the extra miles, after an activity, do something to reinforce what everyone has learned. Talk about what went on, who did what, who saw what.

I have looked forward to gardening with my little girl for a long time and though our days out there aren't always perfect, I think I will look back on our time in the garden as some of our happiest moments.

What kinds of things have you done with your kids?

Chocolate Chip Cookies by Shaina

I shared these cookies with my home girls at volleyball last week and got hit up for the recipe. This recipe is from my amazing friend, Shaina, in Colorado and because I am completely computer illiterate I don't know how to say click here for the recipe and have a nice little link to take you there. So, I copy and pasted it (sorry Shaina) for you to enjoy. As a side note, you can visit Shaina's website at http://just-because-i-am-me.blogspot.com/ for more fabulous recipes. You can also buy her cookbook with more scrum-didly-umptious recipes, which proceeds go to help cover the cost of her precious little baby's heart surgeries. There is a link on her page. So, without further ado, here's the recipe in Shaina's words.

Original Toll House Chocolate Chip Cookies

(otherwise titled: The most fantastic chocolate chip cookie ever!)

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In your mixer, combine 2 cups of shortening, 1 1/2 cups brown sugar, 1 1/2 cups white sugar, 2 tsp vanilla, and 1 tsp water. Then, beat in 4 eggs.

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Add in 2 tsp of salt and 2 tsp of baking soda. Mix. Then add in 4 1/2 cups of flour. Mix in a bag of chocolate chips. (optional: 1 cup chopped walnuts or pecans) ((The dough will be soft and creamy. Don't add more flour. Really.)

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Bake at 375 for 10-12 minutes.

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Ok, now here's where I get serious about the instructions. If you are using a pampered chef baking stone to cook these cookies (like I show in the picture), it might take an extra few minutes of cooking time for the first batch. The cookies should be just slightly light brown when you remove them from the oven, and whether or not you use the baking stone, LET THE COOKIES COOL DOWN 10 MINUTES BEFORE YOU REMOVE THEM FROM THE PAN! That is so important! If you try to remove them right away, they will fall apart into a mushy heap, and it won't be pretty.

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If you forget my instructions, and remove them right away, and say "What was she thinking? These came off just fine" I'll let you know right now, that you overcooked the cookies, and that those cookies are going to be so hard and crumbly when they cool down; they won't taste good at all. Trust me on this. You want them BARELY light brown. Take those babies out and you'll have cookie perfection in a matter of minutes.

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If you are like most of my friends, you'll prefer the cookie dough. When I make this recipe, because it makes a lot, I usually form the dough into cookie balls, line them on my big baking sheet, and freeze them for a few hours, until I can remove them from the pan and place them all in a double lined Ziploc bag. Whenever I want to make cookies, I just get out the selected amount, put them on my baking stone, and bake away. Or...I hand out the bags of cookie dough to friends, who usually eat them up before they even make it to the baking pan. It really is THE BEST cookie dough I've ever had, and before I ever made these, I was not a fan of cookie dough. These little chocolate chip blessings changed my life (and my hip size!).

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So once again, if you still aren't convinced that this is the best recipe ever, then I would just suggest that you try them. I believe I'll change your mind. If you like mint chocolate chips, or peanut butter chips, or other combinations of goodness, then feel free to tweak the add-ins for this recipe. It's a great base recipe for whatever cookie catches your fancy.

{Free} Wall Art

I recently did a bit of rearranging in my living room and found myself with an empty wall. I didn't have much money to buy anything for decoration, so when I saw this tutorial, I knew it was just what I wanted to do. I pulled out some four-year-old Target shelves that weren't being used, found a piece of wood at the park, and I started collecting paper towel rolls and toilet paper rolls to create a little vignette.


What do you think? Not bad for not spending any money, right?

Marinated greek chicken in Na'an bread

One of my favorite restaurants here in San Antonio is Pasha's. Their Na'an bread is to die for. Seriously, I could eat it all day, which could be good or bad since they keep on servin' it! I searched for a recipe and made it for New Year's Eve but it fell way short of my expectations.

So, I was strolling along the bread aisle at Costco a few weeks ago when a nice big package of Na'an caught my eye. I wasn't sure if this pre-packaged stuff could meet my expectations, but I thought I'd give it a try.

Um. Yum.

So, I found a greek recipe for chicken, bought some feta, and made up a slew of my favorite hummus for a dinner that got 12 thumbs up. (There are six people in my family. Yeah, they all loved it.)

Hummus

2 cups canned garbanzo beans, drained

1/3 - 1/2 cup tahini (found at HEB near the peanut butter, or a whole foods store)

1/4 - 1/2 cup lemon juice

1 1/2 teaspoon salt

3 cloves garlic, minced

2 tablespoons olive oil

1 pinch paprika

1 teaspoon minced fresh parsley

Combine all ingredients except 1 tablespoon of olive oil, paprika and parsely  in a food processor. Blend until smooth. Place in a serving bowl and drizzle remaining olive oil over top. Sprinkle with paprika and parsley.

Marinated Greek Chicken

1 8 oz. container fat-free plain yogurt

1/2 teaspoon lemon zest

2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice

2 teaspoons dried oregano

1/2 teaspoon salt

1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper

1/4 teaspoon crushed dried rosemary

1 pound boneless, skinless chicken breast halves, cut into 1-inch pieces

1 container crumbled feta cheese with basil and sundried tomatoes (or plain)

Mix first seven ingredients in a large bowl. Add chicken, turn to coat, cover and marinate for three hours in the refrigerator. Now, here's where you can experiment. We don't have a grill so I placed my chicken on a broiling pan and broiled until the juices ran clear. You could place the chicken on a skewer and grill over and outdoor greill on high heat.

Prepare Na'an according to package directions. (If you make your own, serve them warm - and then post the recipe so we can all enjoy it!) Place desired amount of hummus, chicken, and crumbled feta cheese on Na'an. Wrap and enjoy.

Ready to Start a Garden?

This is the first in a series of posts about vegetable gardening in South Texas....

Seven Steps to a Great Garden

1. Find an area in your yard that gets 8 hours of sun. Outline it with a hose and watch the sun’s progression throughout the day. This step is crucial!

2. Determine what you’d like to grow by asking yourself: What varieties of fruits and vegetables will thrive in Texas? What will my family eat? What do I have time to preserve? Use this website to determine the best planting dates for each season.

3. Draw out your garden bed and make sure you’ve got room for all of your crops. Feel free to be creative...let your pole beans climb up your tomato cages or trellis your squash on the edge of your bed.

4. Build that raised bed at least 12 inches high. You can use railroad ties, 2x6’s, stone, anything durable. Fill it with Garden Soil containing compost. I like Garden-ville.

5. Select plants from a nursery or seeds from a catalog and get planting. For plants, use your fingers to comb through tightly-packed roots and water-in immediately after planting. Remember, it's the roots that need the most attention. The top of the plant may look a bit waterlogged but the roots are priority #1. For seeds, make sure your soil is moist and closely follow planting instructions on the packet.

6. Fertilize at least every 6 weeks. I like using a slow release fertilizer from Osmocote or Miracle Grow, other varieties are available. If you choose to go all organic you’ll need to increase amounts and frequency.

7. Check on your plants. Gardens are living so they need different things on different days...take a look each day and note water needs. If you stick your finger in the dirt and it's moist, it's probably ok. It's natural (and good!) to have bugs but if they're eating up entire plants or seem especially pesky, look up answers online or take leaves to a local nursery for problem diagnosis. Be careful about pesticides because there are a lot of good bugs that keep bad bugs in check. Good luck!

Lindsay